When you were younger, did you ever find yourself in a situation that you couldn’t get out of? Like, let’s say, the first time you drank alcohol or smoked pot. Do you feel like things would have been much better if you had an SOS?
Well, some of you may say “no” but peer pressure has a huge role to play in the decisions that kids make. Most kids are unable to back out of certain things because of peer pressure.
Pastor Bert Fulks knows this very well and decided to put a system in place for his son. Fulks wanted to be able to rescue his son from any situation he can’t get out of. And at the same time, ensure that his son doesn’t get embarrassed in front of his friends. Fulks developed a text script that allows his son to send out a low-key S.O.S.
Fulks said that he got the idea from teens that he talked to addiction clinics across the country. “Recently I asked these kids a simple question,” he writes. “‘How many of you have found yourself in situations where things started happening that you weren’t comfortable with, but you stuck around, mainly because you felt like you didn’t have a way out?’ They all raised their hands.”An excerpt from Fulk’s website that outlines how it works.
Here’s how it works:
Let’s say that my youngest, Danny, gets dropped off at a party. If anything about the situation makes him uncomfortable, all he has to do is text the letter “X” to any of us (his mother, me, his older brother or sister). The one who receives the text has a very basic script to follow. Within a few minutes, they call Danny’s phone. When he answers, the conversation goes like this:
“Danny, something’s come up and I have to come get you right now.”
“I’ll tell you when I get there. Be ready to leave in five minutes. I’m on my way.”
At that point, Danny tells his friends that something’s happened at home, someone is coming to get him, and he has to leave.”
Fulks states that in order for the plan to work there must be a ‘no questions asked’ policy and kids and teen have to know that they won’t get in trouble for the situation they are escaping from.
This may be difficult for some parents to do but Fulk’s believe that “mutual trust and respect” is very important in parenting.
Be sure to share this idea with your friends and family. It may just save some lives.